My Husband Does Not Want Me To Lose Weight?
My husband and I have two kids and the youngest is 8 months old. I need to lose about 40 pounds of baby weight to get back to my “healthy” body weight. When I was in junior high and high school I had anorexia so my husband is nervous about me going on a diet or trying to lose weight at all. He is constantly trying to get me to eat and discourages exercise. Why is he being this way and what should I do?
Firstly, try to understand that your husbands concerns stem from his love and concern for you. Also, considering your past battle with an eating disorder, his worry is not unfounded or unreasonable. Try reassuring him that with his support, you’ll be able to maintain reasonable goals and balance in your life. Remind him that if you feel that you may be sliding into dangerous territory again, that you will seek and accept help. Healthy eating and moderate excersice are positive things, just don’t become fanatic and self-depricating. You’re a beautiful new mom and that’s all your husband sees. Good luck!
Truth is, you’ll need a 3rd party for this one. I think you should take him with you to even just one session of counseling so that both of you can be told what’s right and what’s wrong here. Let him know you think it’s sweet that he cares about you so much and so as a compromise, you’ll also visit a Health and Nuitrition Expert and find out what you can do to lose the weight but maintain a healthy appetite.
most likley he loves you and is worried that youll go back to anorexia, like your dieting will spiral out of control…
or it will lead you to relapes.
talk to him and explain that you just want to be at a healthy wieght.
he sure sound like my ex, but that doesn’t mean you leave him….hmmm you need to work it out and have a talk with him..your not his property and you should get to do what you want too…he must be those guys that wants you to gain alot of weight so no one will want you and have you all to himself…..but I know what your feeling…high school, I stayed at 90-95lb only, until after having kids watching what I eat, 10-20min exercise, I lost about 20lb…you can do it w/o diet pills…Good Luck
there are things 2person can compromise on little things such as that…
your husband is only thinking of himself. he is thinking that if you lose a lot of body fat and become lean and healthy again that you contemplate leaving him. my guess is that he is not in the best of shape either. he wants you to stay fat because he feels that nobody else will want you and his worries will be over as far as you leaving him.
no intelligent person with an IQ over 80 would ever discourage exercise and eating healthy. his motives are surely not to protect you.
he is concerned for your health.
you had some very serious problems. try and appreciate his concern.
you could always go with him to your doctors office and get on a program that your doctor aproves of. that would probably relieve your husband of any concerns he may have.
Maybe you look even hotter to him now.
I’ll give him the benefit of the doubt and believe that he’s worried about you starving yourself, and loves you just the way you are.
Eat healthfully and definately exercise.
Why don’t you try a program like curves or weight watchers so that he can read your info/go with you if he wants to. That way he feels involved and is also assured that you are on a professional diet plan, not haphazardly reducing calories. (I don’t mean for that to sound mean). I have a friend who recovered from anorexia, so I know what its like to watch someone like a hawk. You just want the people you care about to be healthy. Your husband is most likely concerned that you’ll enjoy loosing weight too much and relapse. So assure him that you have a target weight to loose and that you’re going to do it with exercise and healthy meals. If you can add a doctor or profesional into the equation I’m sure he’d feel all the more better. Congrats on the baby!
guys like bundunkadunks. period
Its your body, he just don’t want anyone else to look at you……….